Men’s Work
Psychotherapy in-person in Boulder & online throughout Colorado
I work with men who are ready—or even just willing—to start looking inward. Therapy with me is collaborative. It’s not about me telling you who you are or how to fix things. It’s about creating a space where you can slow down, listen to what’s underneath the surface, and develop a relationship with yourself that feels honest and supportive.
We might talk about relationships, masculinity, intimacy, emotional expression, fatherhood, anger, fear, purpose—or we might just start with whatever feels most immediate. There’s no pressure to “go deep” right away. The goal isn’t to be perfect or endlessly introspective—it’s to get real, even if it’s awkward at first.
You don’t have to know what you’re doing. You don’t have to have a plan. You just have to show up, however you are. That’s where the work begins.
And if you’ve never been in a space like that before, I get it. That was me too.
Rethinking Masculinity
I didn’t grow up with a clear map for what it meant to be a man—just a set of silent expectations: stay strong, don’t cry, figure it out on your own. Like a lot of us, I internalized those messages without knowing it, until they started getting in the way. It wasn’t until I sat with a male therapist that I began to name what I’d been carrying and realize I didn’t have to hold it all alone.
Since then, I’ve continued that work in men’s groups—spaces where I’ve practiced listening without fixing, speaking without posturing, and showing up with my whole self. I’ve come to believe men’s work isn’t about becoming a better man in some performative way—it’s about unlearning the conditioning that says you have to shut down, toughen up, or go it alone. It’s about reclaiming your inner world: your grief, your softness, your strength, your uncertainty.
A lot of men come to therapy not even sure what they’re here to say. You might feel flat, frustrated, anxious, or shut off from your own needs. You might be great at showing up for others but feel lost when it comes to yourself. That’s okay. You don’t have to have it all figured out to begin. This work is about remembering there’s another way—one that includes your full humanity
What is men’s work?
There’s often not much room for men to talk openly about what they’re feeling—let alone to feel safe doing so. Many of us grew up with messages that said “be strong,” “don’t cry,” or “figure it out on your own.” Men’s work is about creating a space where those expectations can be unpacked, redefined, and healed.
This work isn’t about fixing you or asking you to be someone else. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that may have been quieted, ignored, or never given permission to exist. In sessions, we explore themes like emotional expression, fatherhood, intimacy, identity, anger, purpose, and vulnerability—without judgment.
Whether you’re feeling disconnected, struggling in relationships, navigating a life transition, or simply looking for something more meaningful, this is a space to show up as you are. There’s strength in softness, and there’s power in being seen.
